Pregnant wife finds out her husband called his ex "his soulmate" and wants to name their unborn baby after her cat: 'The whole evening I felt like an idiot'

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Ayala Sorotsky • Writer and Editor
Jul 20, 2025 2:00 PM EDT

Any cat pawrent knows: when a feline touches your heart, they stay there forever. Whether it's a silly habit, a comforting purr, or the way they ruled your home like royalty - cats leave a mark. Years later, we might still talk about them or feel a lump in our throat when we hear their name. That's not weird - it's love. The kind of love that doesn't fade just because the whiskers do.

But there's remembering a beloved cat… and then there's using that memory to quietly override others' boundaries. When someone holds onto a cat's legacy in secretive, shady ways, especially without honesty or context, that's not sweet, it's disrespectful. To the cat, whose story deserves transparency. To the people around them, who deserve the truth. And in this story? The person didn't even admit they were honoring the cat. They just… kept quiet. That says a lot.

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    r/AmlOverreacting ⚫ Tight_Phrase6027 AIO my husband wants to name our daughter after his ex's cat ♡relationship
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  • In this tale, a pregnant wife finds out that her husband, without telling her, chose to name their future child after his ex’s cat. Not in tribute. Not in conversation. Just… silently. No wonder she feels betrayed. He didn’t just dishonor the cat by hiding her memory - he disrespected his wife and the little one they’re bringing into the world. That’s not the behavior of a warmhearted cat pawrent. That’s something else entirely.

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    my husband had a 10 year old relationship before he met me in 2019. he did not tell me much about it, except that they grew together, lived together and it did not work out. one time
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    time he told me she was the the most evil person ever, another time he told me that she was his soulmate, but no details. all I know is that they were together when he was 16-27yo and
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    after their relationship she moved to another city. his friends mention her sometimes and they tend to speak a bit coded, but I know it is about her.
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    we got married last august and this last weekend we went to his friend's small wedding. i am pregnant but it is quite early so we did not tell anyone yet. i
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    also have a daughter from a previous relationship. there I met my husband's ex. she came to give flowers and congratulate the newlyweds.
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    once my husband saw her, he absolutely stormed to her and I went after him to see who he went so quickly to. that is how I met her. she does not look like I imagined.
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    i hoped she is ugly, fat and vile, but she actually is beautiful and very elegant. i felt so ugly next to her, especially seeing how my husband was looking at her.
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    they did some small chat and then he asks how are the girls. that's when I found out they used to have two cats together, which remained with her. at this point, his ex, takes the phone out and shows pictures of the cats
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  • Isn't it the worst to realise? She's already furious with her husband, but finding out his mythological ex-girlfriend is beautiful, kind, and also a good cat mama? We understand why this wife would be angry.

    It is important, though, that we know that Sia the cat is getting good care. Honestly? With all this human meddling and feuds, it's better to know the cat is doing fine.

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    saying how they are getting old but they are active and happy. and then I hear she mentioned one of the cats by name "Sia". i felt my blod boiling.
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    when we found out I was pregnant he said that if it is a girl he wants her name to be Sia. and I accepted cause I thought it is a nice unusual name. I grew to love it and now I found out it is the name of his ex cat.
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    his ex did not stay at the wedding so she was gone after their chat, but the whole evening i felt like an idiot.
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    i told him on our way home and he asked what is the issue, nobody owns a name and if anything, our daughter will remind him of a cute cat. AIO? I now feel like he still thinks about his ex
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    NoHeccinClue ⚫ I'm sorry, you married someone who flat out told you that his ex are his soul mate?
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    Tight Phrase6027 OP ⚫ it was early in our relationship when he told me. i supposed maybe he was still thinking about her back then. now i start to feel that he never stopped
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    CheesecakeHuman5298. You're not crazy. Naming your daughter after his ex's cat? That's a weird flex. It's less about the cat and more about unresolved feelings he's casually flaunting. Trust your gut, this is a red flag dressed as a pet name.
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    grumpy_g⚫ Tell him you want to name your daughter after his ex. See how he reacts. Then force him to couples therapy. Find out if he had feelings for her before your child is born.
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    Safiya Mukhamadova • If he's so not over his ex that he's still this obsessed about her CAT he's not ready to be married.
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    Beginning-Pea8770 ⚫ no you're not overreacting. if a guy i was talking to told me another girl was his soulmate, we would've been done right then and there. there's clearly bigger things to unpack here and you guys honestly just need to sit down and talk
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    about it. and the name definitely has a deeper meaning to it. why would he have not just told you it reminded him of his old cat in the first place, if not reminding him of his ex? sorry you're going through this girl, ik this is super tough.
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    Perspective Kookie16 ⚫ It doesn't sound like he is over her or letting go. Having a baby together is just making things more complicated. Pregnancy hormones won't be helping either.
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    If you want to try to make this work, you need couples counseling. I think you could use some individual counseling because negotiating this mess is going to be hard.
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